POEM: How to build healthy relationships with Black men

It started with dinner with my father.   I am 26 years old looking across the table over the fresh ginger glazed salmon and mismatched glasses of white wine into the eyes of the first man who ever broke my heart.   Maybe, I’m giving him too much credit, but everything I’ve learned about a…

Hitchhiking with my Intuition in Costa Rica

THUMB OUT to the road it’s time for an adventure. “Will I get raped?” It’s a damp day on the Caribbean Coast of the Costa Rican jungle as I stand by the road with an Australian I met just hours before. The bus we’re waiting on never shows so I decide we’re going to hitch a ride. It’s…

Herby Pork Ribs

So my buddy Larry was awesome enough to drive my sister and I to ALDI – the world’s best supermarket – earlier this week for a big grocery trip. I said Thank You by cooking him some herby and supa doopa tender pork ribs. I served them with fresh avocado, tomato slices, and some fancy box  mac~n~cheese. Ain’t no…

Sorry Baby

Sorry baby, I’m not gonna sleep bad so you can sleep good.                                                        -L

How to Get Unstuck

So, you’re feeling stuck in life—a small crack in your foundation went ignored for too long. As you went on living, little rocks, water drops, random food & weed scraps fell into your lil’ crack making it expand exponentially. Now you’re stuck — in a huge hole with your insecurities, vices and regrets. How the…

Toxicity

Tell me, how is it possible to feel someone’s foulness through the walls? When people conspire, plan and speak in spite– that shit permeates. It reeks with wretched vibes and it spreads. It starts to seep its way into the cracks, “insulating” until it suffocates– if you don’t move strategically that is. You gotta twist,…

Study

Dark skin, smooth dark brown slight limp, but nothing to stress about you are unique. You walk into the coffee shop with purpose sharp moves toward the table like it chose you you sit, book and Starbucks cup in hand never mind that we’re at Emma’s. You speak, but not to me only an empty …

Enjoy Now

I experienced something that I haven’t told anyone about. I was walking home from my favorite place thinking about why I have such a hard time letting go of the past. See, I suffer from nostalgianism…a syndrome I just made up. Nostalgianism  keeps every fight or disagreement I’ve had over the past 3 months current and…

Be your own muse

I need to come clean: I’ve been having a passionate and steamy love affair with…myself. No, I’m not talking about solo sexy time. I’m referring to creating and fostering a sense of self love, appreciation for my inner and outer beauty and in a way, becoming my own muse. Growing up I was made fun…

A little resolution: Stop looking for pain

Eating well and exercising are both common resolutions that we have a hard time committing to, right? Right. Now that we agree on that, let’s move on, because this post has nothing to do with either of those resolutions. My little resolution has to do with practicing a different kind of discipline–emotional discipline. Let me…

The perks of being unemployed

So you’re unemployed. Did you get angry at your boss and finally curse him out? Did your supervisor figure out it was you stealing all the office supplies? Maybe, you decided that dull work wasn’t your passion and you quit! Jokes aside, the reason for your unemployment is unimportant here in the den–the point is…